Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Happy Holidays!

 A Very Merry Christmas to all…but be safe, and count your blessings!

Recently, I spoke to an ER doctor. She said,“Holidays are the hardest time of the year for many. Statistically, there are more suicides and suicide attempts during the holiday season than at any other time of the year. More depression, domestic violence and broken families. Even heart attacks and strokes increase as bodies break down from stressed spirits.”  

Something about holidays makes our vulnerabilities surface more than on days of normal routine. Myths perpetrated by elf-riddled movies and glowing advertisements of limitless bounty only make it worse, for those who cannot deliver. The holidays tend to spotlight the imperfections in our lives, rather than focus on all that we have. So the suffering becomes sharper, hearts break, tempers bust, bodies break and lives shatter. 

The holiday season should be for us all. Those of us with imperfect lives need a holiday, too, and I’m sure that means all of us. It should be a time that opens community-wide arms to welcome the sad as well as the glad, the homeless as well as the wealthy, the 99 as well as the 1, the old and those who are ill… as well as the young, beautiful and vibrant. It should be a time that gives new hope to the well situated and luck to those down on their luck. After all, the lucky today may very well be the unlucky tomorrow. 

If life were fair, we would all rise up on our good deeds and hard work. Life is not fair. Sometimes those who do everything right can have everything go wrong by chance and circumstance. Sometimes our days are surprisingly warm and mild, but some days it rains. 

A New Year has come again. New challenges, new people, new experiences…but will it really be New? People hope that the New Year will be better than the last one, but they carry around something that is not new… themselves.
That appears to be a “Well duh, yes…Judy,” moment, but really it’s not. Things don’t tend to happen unless you do something to change your behavior, your outlook on life…you need to change YOU.

If I look at my life objectively, I can see all the things that have gone wrong or failed, and I’m the common denominator. Of course there are things that happened due to bad luck, sheer idiocy, naiveté, lack of understanding my own self-worth and of course…stubbornness. J
It’s easier to view other people’s oblivious destruction that they wreak upon themselves and the lives of those around them. If things are habitually wrong, YOU need to look in the mirror and decide what responsibility you have in the whole mess.

Someone said that the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over, while expecting a different result.

Here are a few of my new & old Rules of Life.

Rules for Life:

Thoughts become things, so think good things!

Never say Never!

Live with intention!

Listen well!


Do what I love!

Trust my gut instincts. There are usually right!

Believe in my abilities and myself! Don’t listen to the naysayers!

I hope you have a very Happy and Prosperous 2012. Take the time to examine your year of 2011 and see what New Rules for Life you can make for yourself. 

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