I recently read an article by James Altucher, "How To Deal With Crappy People."
In it he writes that there are 4 types of people. Here's my take.
These People are happy in their world. Yes, they have times of suffering, but they always find the bright side of any situation. Often, we resent them. Practice being happy for these Happy people. And try to surround yourself with them. Click this link to see Happy People
Not only are these babies happy, but their parents are as well.
*People in Pain
Sometimes we are all unhappy & in pain. Things don't work out. Friends or family members die. But there are People who are always unhappy. They only see the negative side of life. Try to be compassionate, but DON'T drain yourself. People who are always Unhappy can turn into "Crappy People."
This is different from "Happy." Good people are just Good. They don't have ulterior motives. Sometimes we suspect they do & we resent them. Perhaps even envy them. I know a lot of Good People. What a blessing to have them in my life. I'm sure you know many too. Be grateful for the people who are good to you and to others.
These people will do you harm, no matter what you do, for no reason at all. They will say & do things that are hurtful & hateful. We all have these Crappy people in our lives. They might be former friends, relatives, neighbors, or bureaucrats. They swoop down on your life to try to make you as unhappy as they are. They will torture you & try to destroy you with their hate & arrogance. Plus they'll slice the creative & positive thoughts out of your mind. It's difficult not to want to run over them with a dump truck, smash a glass over their head or other horrible things. Stop!
They aren't worth the time & effort, let alone the ramifications of any such act.
There is only ONE way to deal with Crappy people. Ignore Them. Don't give them advice. Try not to talk to them. Don't think about them. Stay away from them. It isn't easy, as they will try to annoy you and creep back into your life & consciousness.
Remember: When you get in the mud with a pig, you get dirty and the pig gets happy.
Don't do it!
A writing quote from Stephen King:
“…you may make
revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny
way, not understanding what you've said at all, or why you thought it was so
important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That's the worst, I
think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want
of an understanding ear.” ― Stephen King, Different Seasons
2013 is starting out great. Spent New Year's Day at a friend's party in a beautiful home overlooking the red rocks of Sedona. And they are "Happy People." :-)